hot and cold podcasts

Why your partner bounces between stability and reactivity

Are you confused by your partner’s fluctuating emotions? Are you struggling with your own reactivity (to their...

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Hot and Cold: Why They Pursue When You Distance

Ever wondered why the partner who took you for granted suddenly becomes interested the moment you walk away? Learning...

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Dating Games: How to exit the game (and enter love)

The first step to getting off the game board is to realize you’re on it. Freedom to be yourself can never be had...

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Dating Games: Why you’re getting mixed messages

All mixed messages have one thing in common; confusion. Whether that confusion is real or a game is the part you need...

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Dating Games: Creating ‘Tension’ for Control

Creating tension is a long-standing dating game that’s been used throughout time to reboot a lover’s interest. It was...

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The partner who pulled away came back. What should you do?

How do you know if they’re a hot and cold player, or just a nervous dater? Trust your gut. And decode the signs that...

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Q and A: Are women more attracted to a man whose feelings are unclear?

Viewer Follow My Logic writes, “I’ve heard it said over and over that according to research a woman is ‘more...

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Dating Games: The Truth about Hot and Cold Partners

The hallmark of self-acceptance and self-love is to be able to stand in front of someone and be completely...

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Q and A: Do men know right away if you’re ‘girlfriend material?’

Viewer Lana writes, “Dear Susan.Thank you so much for your helpful videos. My friends claim that a man knows very...

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Q and A: Do people run hot and cold when they’re on the rebound?

Jessie Magliocco writes, ”Do people run hot and cold when they're on the rebound or when an ex is trying to get back...

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Q and A: Does being open destroy a ‘hot and cold’ relationship?

Petter Fagerlund writes, “Should you try to resolve an ambivalent situation, that might be characterized as hot and...

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Why the ‘rational you’ becomes emotionally obsessed

External factors can collide with your inner world to set you up for emotional obsession— even when you’re a rational...

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Q and A: What’s the reason behind ‘haunting?

Salvatore writes, “Hello Susan, could you explain the psychology or behavior/reasoning behind "haunting"? It's...

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The Narcissist’s Game of Hot and Cold

You may be savvy on decoding hot and cold patterns in dating, but narcissists play a whole different game. Learn how...

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From commitment to nonexistent… what happened?

Your partner’s the one who urged you to move ahead in your relationship. Now, they’re the one who’s backed away. Why?...

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 Dating Games: Hot and cold? Or, nothing at all

https://youtu.be/Ul0wCr6M7hY You’re in a dating game that only offers you two choices: hold and cold, or...

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