partner selection podcasts

The difference between ‘settling,’ and being realistic

There’s a marked difference between settling in love, and being realistic. Settling acknowledges...

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Relationships: When is ‘good,’ good enough?

There’s a time in every relationship when we’ll wonder if what we have is the best choice for us....

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Why your partner bounces between stability and reactivity

Are you confused by your partner’s fluctuating emotions? Are you struggling with your own...

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Are they looking to buy? Or just ‘window shopping?’

They pursued you with texting and online chatting. Why did they cool off? They may have been...

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Disappointed with dating (and losing hope)?

If you’re exhausted from bad dates, crazy daters, and you’re losing faith in finding love—it’s...

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Learning how to date as the ‘New You’

Personal transformation may initially make us feel separate, but ultimately leads us to greater...

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Online Dating: The ‘Blind Purchase’ Effect

If you’ve found online dating frustrating (and wonder if you’re doing something wrong)—it’s not...

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Can a red flag be a signal for a second chance?

Red flags are markers we need to heed in dating. Sometimes we ‘imagine’ we see red flags in an...

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Attraction: When the ‘draw’ becomes the drawback

Differences in personality and lifestyle are exciting in a mate... until the very thing that was...

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Are they worth the risk? Here’s how to lower the odds of heartache

Rather than being afraid to love, the better option is to be a good sifter of which partner is...

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When a relationship should happen, but doesn’t

In theory, they’re the perfect partner.  They check off every category on our ‘list’.  And, we’re...

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Q and A: Are you hoping your current partner will change your past?

Are you seeking love from someone incapable of giving it to you? Childhood issues can create the...

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Q and A:How do I move on from rejection and not let it affect my self-worth?

Viewer Lola writes, “Hi Susan! How do you move on from rejection and not let it affect your self...

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Q and A: What’s the most common mistake younger men make with older women?

Shanewrites, “Dear Susan, Enjoying your videos and website, finding your perspective refreshing...

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Q and A: How do we know when to give someone a chance?

Laetitia writes, “Hi Susan,Thank you for all your fabulous advice. So helpful! Here is my...

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Q and A: Why do you pick someone so difficult?

R Baker writes, “Brilliant video, and Nikka was an adorable addition. Can’t wait to see the ‘why...

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Q and A: When is it a deal breaker vs.a compromise?

Viewer Katia writes, “Hi Susan, I love your videos! You are helping me to find my true self and...

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Q and A: I’m ‘showing up’ for love. Why aren’t my dates?

Dominik writes, “Hi Susan, I‘ve watched all of your videos and they are so helpful, thank you!...

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Q and A: How can I find sexual desire AND real connection?

Paul writes, “Hello Susan. For most of my life I have been struggling to choose the right partner...

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Q and A: How do I ask about their relationship history (without sounding intrusive)

Georgina writes: “I would love to get your thoughts on the best way to ask someone why his (or...

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